A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity. (Proverbs 17:17)
Linking up with Hope For Weary Moms today.
Dear Weary Mom,
When that little bundle, uniquely crafted and knit together in our womb by God, is placed in our arms, love sweeps over us and fills our hearts with unimaginable joy. We become like a mother bear, willing to fight anyone or anything to keep this precious gift that God has given us to mother, safe. We are willing to give up sleep, time, money, whatever it takes to meet this tiny person’s needs. We are enamored by this child.
As our little one grows we sing lullabies, read books, and send up prayers for him or her. We watch as they begin to roll over, take their first steps, and eventually master walking. Training, teaching, and guiding our little one is an on going, constant occurrence—never-ending.
Time passes and we add a few more rays of sunshine to the family. We learn to balance life with several little ones. Everyday we are busy meeting the needs of our growing family. The nights seem to go by at lightening speed, the days, however, may feel like they are going by at a snails pace.
Although, we feel privileged and are grateful to be able to raise these little blessings, at times it can be a very lonely endeavor. Especially for those who choose to stay home, full time. It’s not something that we readily talk about, perhaps, it’s because we feel guilt, even admitting it, and who wants one more thing to feel guilty about. Truth is it can get very lonely with no one to talk to but a newborn and a three-year-old.
Sweet mama, I know you love your children to the moon and back and you wouldn’t trade your life for anything, but I just want to tell you I understand that sometime it can be a little lonely. My advice to you is to get yourself some girlfriends. Sometimes when we become mothers our friends are in a different season of life and they may not be able to relate to what we are going through. If this is the case, it might be time to add to your list of friends.
How might I go about this, you ask? First, ask God to put people in your path who would make a good friend for you. “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened”. (Matthew 7:7-8) Second, find a mother’s group such as MOPS (mothers of preschoolers). You will find women, just like you, who would love to make a new friend. Thirdly, get to know other mothers at story time, introduce yourself to women at church, get to know your neighbors, and strike up a conversation with another mother at the park. You may be surprised at how many other women are hungry for someone to talk to.